RELATIONAL SKILLS

Epstein Files, Reopen Alcatraz Prison, Florida’s Alligator Alcatraz, Masked Arrests by ICE Agents, National Guard and Marines in Los Angeles, Southern Boarder Military Zones, Gun Rules Gone, these have been recent headlines. And, as a proud member of West Point’s Long Gray Line and proud U.S. Army veteran, including two years of combat during the Vietnam War, it saddens to be witness to the destruction of the pillars of the country. A pleasant reminder are Terrence Real’s relational, SELF SKILLS for a well-adjusted, well-functioning person:

• Healthy Self-esteem…Dysfunction: Shame. Grandiosity.
• Self-awareness…Dysfunction: Disassociation. Perfectionism.
• Good Boundaries…Dysfunction: Too porous (reactive). Walled off (disengaged).
• Interdependence…Dysfunction: Overdependent. Antidependent/needless/wantless.
• Moderation…Dysfunction: Immature (too “loose”). “Supermature” (too “tight”).

(How Do I Get Through to You, NY, NY: SCRIBNER, 260)

Quite simply, we need to empathetically offer the truth to ourselves and others! Cultural masculinity and femininity can get in the way of honesty and competency. Peace-of -mind is created with purpose and connections built on a foundation of empathy and compassion. And the battle for the country can only be won if we each have passionate intent; commit to 100% responsibility (Life happens because of me, not to me.); face everything, fear nothing; and accept a process perspective…healing our country will take time and genuine, inspired, honest effort. Every experience has a purpose; mindfulness and awareness offer insight into reality; and life is practice. Let us be relationally sound and grateful, have trust and hope, be compassionate, have courage, be honest and prudent, and have integrity. We each can make a difference and recover the damage that is being made to the pillars of our country by striving to be well-adjusted and well-functioning. Have a great day and spread kindness and love.