PARTNERSHIP
Are you being heard, seen, and accepted?
Several years ago, Michael Brown’s The Presence Process: A Healing Journey into Present Moment Awareness, grabbed the attention with “I acknowledge my reflections in the world.” And today this statement goes much deeper after listening to Carl Jung’s video about love of a partner who minute-to-minute offers inner experiences. What are you seeing in the mirror as you contemplate the partner’s reflections? What has the mirror been offering your partner about your reflections in your partner’s mirror? How are you opting to show up in the world?
Today all inner experiences feel like reflections in the mirror… the challenge is to take the time to be with the experience, simply look in the mirror and be with the reflection, go deep, grasp, and accept what the reflection is offering; and behave and respond accordingly with next steps. When one authentically looks in a mirror the necessary changes that one sees can be owned; and if the desire is to accept the message and make a change (s), then move forward, accept the message, and make the change (s). Take 100% responsibility for the reflections in the mirror… life happens because of me, not to me.
What is the inner experience received? This is a good question with a complicated answer. To date, the inner experiences include psychological needs, biological needs, what is said-the words, and shadow-subconscious, mental chatter, emotional needs, physical needs, energy, cellularity, spirituality, sensual needs (smells, touches, tastes, sights, things one hears), and personality. That is a huge ball of wax! How can two folks ever hope to be good partners? With 100% responsibility and commitment to action by each partner that produces agreed upon results. Have to’s need to disappear.
Simply, be accepted, no need to perform to be loved. Be seen for not just behavior…notice the fears, the integrity, the virtues, the values, the trust, the hope, the courage, the honesty, et al . Listen first to be understood later, i.e., listen to the inner voice absent interruption. The relationship skills can come alive… the high self-esteem, the evolving self-awareness, the boundaries, , the moderation, and simply being together with the one you love and adore.
